Singer Timi Dakolo was featured alongside IK Osakioduwa and Richard Mofe-Damijo on the cover of Genevieve Magazine’s latest issue and now we’ve got a look inside his interview with the mag where the
father of 3 talks about everything from fatherhood, to love and more.
See excerpts below.
On what love is: Love
is to know someone to a great extent and to be patient enough with his
or her imperfections. Saying I love you is to know you for who you are,
flaws and all.
On deciding to get married: Marriage
is one of the biggest decisions you will ever make. I knew she would be
my wife when in the course of the relationship I saw attributes I
liked. She would stop me halfway through my pessimism and tell me to
dream big. She came with a painter and changed the interior of my house
because she hated the way my house looked and I would think to myself
wetin this ajebo dey talk? She gave me fashion advice and she was my
fondest aproko partner. I knew I would spend forever with her.
On his wife: [Busola
is] Industrious. She hates being idle. She loves family, infact you
cannot come into her family space. She also likes to be in the know; she
wants to know my projects and is always willing to contribute. She also
likes to travel. I could never marry a woman that is not going anywhere
and is unwilling to learn new things. I believe there are many ways to
skin a cat; there is never just one way of doing something. I also
cannot marry a woman who cannot manage money. If you cannot manage your
money, how will you manage our money?
On if his wife was making more money than him: I
do not have a problem with marrying a woman richer than me as long as
she gives me my respect and listens to me. There is nothing a man loves
more than the respect he gets from his wife. Women love attention but
men love to be respected. You can be the boss lady in the office but
when you get home, you should care for and respect your husband.
On why men cheat: They
are just distracted. A certain pastor gave me a very wonderful
illustration. She poured water from an old glass into a new glass and
gave me to drink, after that she poured water from the new glass into
the old glass and she gave me to drink then she asked me if the water
tasted different. She said that is how women are. It’s the same woman in
different packages. There will always be a better, classier and more
beautiful woman but that shouldn’t distract men.
On being patient and loving in a marriage:
My wife woke up one morning and said she wants be a photographer and
attend the New York film Academy. If you don’t want problems in your
life, when your wife comes up with a spontaneous idea, just
agree. Women are very interesting. I think every woman has her own
wahala. You might be talking about something totally different and they
bring up something from the past that you had apologised for. I’m forced
to think they do it when there is so much peace and they feel the need
to spice things up. It’s a very funny thing indeed. If you marry for
love, love will be your driving force but if you marry for money or
beauty whatever was the attraction is what you’ll need to sustain it.
Let love and compatibility be the driving force for marriage because if
you marry for beauty, Wetin face north today go face south tomorrow
unless you buy a clip to help her hang it.
On wedding expenses:
Don’t pressure your self to do a wedding that society expects of you;
printing a wedding invitation that looks like a visa. In life you are
your own competition. Whether you have money or not, it doesn’t get
easier after marriage. Budget and plan according to what you have. No
one will come to check your suit to see how much you spent on it.
Read more from his interview here and be sure to pick up a copy of Genevieve Magazine for other features.
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